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"With my wife, I don't get no respect. The other night there was a knock on the front door and my wife told me to hide in the closet ." Rodney Dangerfield
Every time I think I have seen it all or heard it all, the world provides me with some new act to amuse, annoy,aggravate or be apathetic towards.
Secrets are only safe when they are never shared. Secrets made between two become a confidence . Secrets kept from friends are a deception. Acts of intentional deception are a lie. There is no pretty way to say it, no amount of justification to make it right.
Too often secrets are ways of avoiding truths for the keeper and the owner. The keeper of the secret will claim to have been loyal, yet the loyalty ends when the owners reliability or sincerity becomes questionable. This can be a day later, a week later or months later . Others who had information on the owner of the secret are accused of being deceptive, why? because the questions where not asked .
How many others hear , "i have never told this to anyone else" , "i would die if anyone knew", "it would cause problems or harm if s/he finds out"
If it's a confidence ,guard it as the treasure it is . Secrets tend to come out sort of like roaches , plentiful, filthy little animals with absolutely no value or use. The truth may hurt for a while, a lie may never heal . 
Lover's don't finally meet somewhere, they are in each other all along " ~Rumi
As a society people pass each other daily, and make judgements based on what they see. This is not mean, or cruel it is simply one of the first methods of attraction. A women who takes the time to bathe, make sure her hair is brushed and styled and her clothes are clean and neat will be attractive to someone. A man who trims his facial hair, is bathed, and has his clothes clean will attract someone. It's not the perfect figure or the incredible muscles that keeps a relationship past a few minutes of weather chat. It is what shines from within a person that makes them continuously appealing and interesting .
I fully believe in beshert or a soul mate , that for each person there is the one created for them. Some people are able to find theirs early in life and spend many years together, others rush so hard to find someone that they will just settle for less , some search and never find theirs for what ever reason . The One is there though, and it may have been the person you refused to give the time of day to because they didn't dress as you thought they should, or didn't speak with the right accent, or perhaps the color of their skin is different than yours.
No matter what belief a person has on how humanity came into being , we are all human (okay some are knuckle draggin low brows .) but we are all human, we have similar cell structure, biologically function the same and breathe the same air . Take a moment to practice humanity , speak kindly to another, smile even if you feel though your heart is breaking . You never know that the moment you took to speak to someone rather than just talking at them, may be the One who has existed within you all along .
