the heart can never be broken ~

I will say he had broken my heart , my heart has been broken, , i
will never love again. Then there is the obsession on what could i
have done differently, if i had only been thinner, prettier, been a
better cook . The heart doesn't break by emotions and unless it's a
cancer or medical it is indestructible . It is not that your heart
stops feeling but becomes more vulnerable , it feels everything !
Your friend looses their job, you feel sorry for them. You feel as
badly as if it had happened to you . The words to a song you've
heard hundreds of times all of the sudden become your song , so
descriptive of how you feel.

That you are feeling is proof that your heart is not broken. The way
to heal the loss of love is to give more . !! Adopt a puppy ,
visit a nursing home, plant a tree, walk in the park and just feel
nature . Love does go on.

if only

This morning I received a text from a friend ~ her third marriage
ended like the other two .. if only

How many times does one say , if only , as if it where just one thing
that would have changed everything.
If only I hadn't said ......
then no one would have known how you felt
You would have kept the feelings inside forever
You would have always wondered " what if"

If only we had ...
If we had gotten married, had children, separated sooner
I would have been happier ? i would have had less regrets, I would
have met my real love.
What if is what you choose it to be.
do not dwell on the past, look forward to the
future .

One of my favorite quotes :
Never yield to remorse, but at once tell yourself: remorse would
simply mean adding to the first act of stupidity a second.~~ Nietzsche