The truth that many people never understand, until it is too late, is that the more you try to avoid suffering the more you suffer because smaller and more insignificant things begin to torture you in proportion to your fear of being hurt. ~Thomas Merton
Since everything worth saying has already been said, many times with more eloquence and tact than I personally convey, thank you Mr Merton .
Sometimes it takes a girls night out to set priorities and to re evaluate what is important. If its coffee at the table or 3 phones , 2 coffee pots (one traitor drinks instant ) and three ash trays that need to be emptied because they are over flowing with the recent pain, sorrows, tears, and frustrations of the daily grind , or fonts screaming across a screen. It's not the how, but the who.
In the search for friendship and love of the opposite sex the ones who are always there sometimes are forgotten. They sit back, waiting patiently for you to come back to your senses, they are the ones who are going to dry tears, offer a shoulder if you need one, and will move aside and let you push the button on the wood chipper .
In the search for love, sometimes the light is so strong that it is blinding n. Then one must step back into the shadows to clearly see not everyone is what they appear to be. More often they aren't what we want them to be. If each time someone was hurt by another who did not meet their expectations or hopes they stopped reaching out , the world would be a very cold place. It is the continued risk that allows growth, it is the pain that allows one to understand joy, it is when suffering is embraced that it can become healing. By understanding that the small things are lessons for when the something bigger comes along and there is no good or bad, only energy, it is then possible to use the energy in a positive way .
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